SPICING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP

BY OLUWAYINKA DADA

Recently, a friend told me she wanted to break up with her boyfriend, at that moment I couldn't for any reason imagine the word “breakup" from her.  I was wondering why on earth she would want that, because for as long as I can remember their Love was like that of snow white and prince charming. I decided to ask her why, with a sigh, she simply said   "he's not the guy I said yes to, I can’t feel the love anymore is this how I will continue in the relationship, and end up living a boring life"

Do you by any means find yourself in this situation? Do you ever wonder why you don’t feel the same way the day you said yes to him? Or you are already thinking of how your home will be if you eventually get married to him?  Don’t be stressed about it, believe me you are not the only person with these thoughts on your mind, so you really don’t have to feel guilty, all you have to do is to know the reason why you are bored and do something about it.

Since the creation of Man, Man has always wanted companionship, so its no surprise when people jump into relationship mostly because they don't want to be alone or because their partner is so good looking but never for Love, and even sometimes, love is not enough. 
Below we will examine what's causes boredom in a relationship and how we can spice it up;

1.  When Your relationship is predictable, it’s a boring daily routine, you already know exactly what you’re going to do with each other every day of the week, when you keep doing the same thing all over and over, love start to get repetitive, some of us can’t help but feel stifled like we’re stuck in a locked room without any hope of ever getting out. 
If you really want to spice up your relationship, be spontaneous, take time to enjoy life, don't be too fixated on work and routine, take time out for your partner and enjoy your love.

2. The foundation, as I have said earlier, if the foundation is fragile and superficial  it can cause a big problem. Its always advisable to take ones time. Falling in love too quickly can build a relationship on shaky grounds, especially when the reason for your togetherness is based on one or two aspect, great sex or a rebound relationship. Try to be a friend, take your time while dating someone before you fall in love or move in together.

3.  Happy days, do you remember the last time both of you did something exciting together?  We do sometimes overlook surprises and excitement or we take them for granted, especially when we’re in the relationship for a long period of time.  Are you bored because the relationship doesn’t excite you anymore, do something about it, plan a road trip, vacation, go see a movie, go out for a dinner , just do something!!

4. Special memories are everything in a relationship, just like it is in life. When you look back at your life, you remember it by the happy memories you have. The more the memories you can think of, the better and more worthwhile your life would feel.
Love works the same way. If you stop creating excitement and fond memories all the time, you’ll have nothing that will make your love feel special and wonderful.

5. Have you started getting tired of explaining something to your partner because it takes too long to go into all the details?  A perfect example of how couples lose communication in a relationship. They’re too bored to talk about the little things because they feel like it’s unimportant. The truth is, it’s the little things that actually counts.

6. You miss being single and envy your single friends. It always seem like they’re having so much more fun without you. What you do when you were single? Do the same things with your partner, of course, minus the flirting with the opposite sex part.

7. If you have no shared passions or long term goals together, both of you will have nothing to look forward to and will definitely end up getting bored of each other. Build castles in the air together, and learn to dream about a better life together. It’ll make both of you feel more passionate about working towards a common goal, and bring both of you closer too.

8.  Spending time together is good, but too much of it can be claustrophobic. Spend time with your own friends or by yourselves now and then. When you meet up again at the end of the day, both of you will be excited to talk about your own lives for a change.

As you have gone through the reasons, what are you thinking presently?, What do you want to do? What’s the first solution your mind gives you? Do you want to fix it or do you want to move on

Work hard towards a better relationship and fix it. Or talk to your partner and take a temporary break from each other.

The truth is, if you’re bored with your relationship, it’s better to confront it now or both of you may end up hating each other and move towards a messy breakup in future.

With all these reasons, I believe you will be able to pinpoint the reason for your boredom and think of the next steps to take ever after